Before your first go, you’ll also want to peep these stories from women who have dabbled in butt sex and lived to tell the tale. Read on.
«My ex and I had been dating for about three years before we ever tried anal. He had slept with a lot of women in his teens and early 20s, so I loved the idea of doing something with him that he’d never done before.
«We talked about it for months before finally going through with it. It wasn’t really planned, but one night after we both had a couple of drinks, we started hooking up in my bedroom, and he whispered in my ear, ‘Should we try it?’ I nodded my head yes. We slathered ourselves in lube-I’d always heard that you need to use way more than you think you do-then had him enter very slowly, like, centimeter by centimeter, in the doggy position. Within about five minutes, he was pretty far inside, and it felt like nothing I’d experienced before-a fullness that made me feel like I’d never had sex before.
What made the whole thing that much better was how he kept asking if I was okay and the look of sincere and utter pleasure on his face, as if he was having an otherworldly experience, too. We made a ton of eye contact-I liked turning my head and watching him lose himself to the pleasure-and we kissed a lot as he got close to coming. Despite my nerves, I actually orgasmed, too (I rubbed my clit to put myself more at ease). It was the most intimate night of my life.» -Marianne E.
We did it not because we were bored with our sex life, but because neither of us had ever done it, and we wanted to ‘have a first’ together
Most important, you need to properly warm up. Just like a vagina, it is easier and more pleasurable when the hole is ready to go. Proper foreplay is essential-bring in lube, fingers, mouth, toys, whatever you prefer. I think of anal as the second course because it’s better once you’re already excited and feeling great. My advice is to trust your body, and if you feel up for it, go for it!» -Michelle R.
«I tried anal for the first time with my ex. I was incredibly comfortable with him, but using lube would have made it a more pleasant experience for both of us, since there is no natural lube. I would recommend doing it with someone who you feel comfortable with because it definitely is a much more vulnerable area.» -Sandra O.
«We tried it for the first time a year and a half into our relationship. We were in a place where we were comfortable with each other and eager to explore more. So one day, we tried it out of curiosity. I did some research beforehand just to make sure we would both be safe and comfortable doing it. The first time we did it, we used a generous amount of lube and made sure to prepare first. It was definitely interesting for both of sugar daddy new york us and something neither of us had done before.
It could take more time than vaginal sex
After that we only tried it one more time, and we ultimately decided it wasn’t something that we wanted to continue doing. It was more special doing it with my partner rather than a random hookup because I felt safe and comfortable throughout all of it.» -Elise T.